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A Guide to Avoiding Common Mistakes In Divorce

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Divorce is a complex, emotionally-charged process. Missteps and oversights can often complicate proceedings and jeopardize your case. Understanding these common pitfalls can save you from needless headaches and additional heartaches in both high-conflict and straightforward divorces.

Missteps People Often Make in Divorces


People frequently fall into certain traps during the divorce process. Being aware of these common mistakes can help you protect your interests, be they financial, relating to your children, or otherwise.

Not Being Prepared

Going through a divorce without adequate preparation can be a grave mistake. Organizing your documents, setting aside funds, and devising a clear action plan for enduring the process are essential steps before starting the process so that you don’t lose too much in the end.

Not Understanding Financial Implications  

It is important to remember that divorce can be a costly endeavor. People often overlook the financial implications of divorce, which can result in unforeseen expenses. Consider the following:
  • Monitor joint bank accounts or credit cards.
  • Document all assets and debts, including your spouse’s.
  • Keep track of your financial paperwork, including bank statements, retirement papers, loan documents, life insurance policies, and investments.
  • If you rely on your spouse's health insurance, ensure you have a plan for securing coverage for yourself.
Remember, a clear understanding of your family’s financial situation will aid in negotiations and ensure you are prepared for what lies ahead.

Not Prioritizing Self-Care and Mental Wellness  

Divorce can significantly affect your mental health. Often people experience depression during the divorce or in the aftermath. It's vital to seek support from friends, family, loved ones, or professionals to navigate these challenging times.

While your lawyer will guide you through the legal aspects of your divorce, they are not equipped to provide emotional support. Therapists, counselors, or support groups can provide emotional assistance during this turbulent period.

Not Understanding the Potential Impact of Moving Out

While moving out of a shared home might seem like a logical step when a marriage is failing, it's essential to consider the potential long-term consequences, especially regarding custody of children and property division. Moving out could lead to the perception that you abandoned your children or abandoned financial responsibilities of the household.

Rushed Decisions

During this emotionally strenuous time, it can be tempting to try to expedite proceedings by agreeing to unfavorable terms. While understandable, this approach can be detrimental to your case. For matters such as finances, child custody, and spousal support, it's crucial to take the time to plan for the outcome you desire.

Passive Behavior in Divorce Proceedings

While expediting proceedings by acquiescing to your spouse's demands may be appealing, such passivity can harm your best interests and result in significant long-term financial consequences. Take an active role in the process and fight for your interests when necessary.

Spiteful Behavior

It's important not to let anger and resentment guide your actions during divorce proceedings. Acting out of spite can escalate conflicts, increase costs, and prolong the process. Aim for amicable resolutions where possible, and remember, the decisions you make now will greatly impact your future. It's essential to approach the process thoughtfully, considering all aspects and striving for the best possible outcome.

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Excessive Arguments

While it's crucial not to be overly passive, it's equally important to avoid arguing over every asset. Excessive contention can waste time, increase costs, and exacerbate emotional turmoil. Strive for an equitable distribution of assets and choose your battles wisely.

Not Securing Legal Advice and Representation

While a DIY approach may seem cost-effective, it can often lead to damaging oversights and missed opportunities because of lack of knowledge about the law and court process, especially in complex cases. Legal guidance f can offer invaluable insights and protections, leveling the playing field for you if your spouse has already secured representation.

To understand your rights and entitlements in the event of a divorce or how to protect your property and assets, it is invaluable to consult and retain an experienced divorce attorney. Contact our attorneys to get the divorce representation that you need.

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